She is more precious than jewels,
and nothing you desire can compare with her. ~ Proverbs 3:15
I love this scripture and it’s one that I have had a lot of time to reflect on. Often when working with couples, I refer to this. This scripture is referring to the value of wisdom and how precious it is. While this scripture is referring to wisdom and the rare value of it, there is another scripture that also refers to jewels only in reference to a wife.
A wife of noble character who can find her? She is worth far more than rubies. ~ Prov. 31: 10
Now, I am not an expert on biblical scriptures but I do think I can share what this brings to mind for me.
Both wisdom and a wife of noble character are highly valued even above jewels.
I have found if a woman is treated like a precious jewel, if they feel they are the most valued person in their spouse’s eyes, they are more likely to give more of themselves to their partner.
The reciprocity of this balance is what makes it all work. When it’s there, it creates something special that is hard to break.
It’s hard to put someone else before your own needs. It takes a level of trust to do so. Trust, therefore is at the core of all marriages. Without it, it’s hard to put it all on the line for the other person. However, the gains and the success of a well-balanced marriage are the prize.
These scriptures bring into focus the value of a good partnership as well as how to treat one another. Often we begin to take our mate for granted and believe that no matter what, they will be there. Unfortunately, that is not the truth. Partners need to be cherished and feel important to the other person. The relationship between two spouses should always be far different than any other relationship, unique and balanced.
Would you work to build trust if you knew the gain was a full well-balanced marriage?